GUIDANCE FOR PARENT

As in my last blog I discussed on Child's dependence on their parents especially their moms. Here, today i will discuss on how u can guide them to be independent.

ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO BE INDEPENDENT.

A child who comes in the world is completely dependent on his parents but as he grows he wants to discover the world. The child normally tries to be independent from two years. From 3 years to 5 years, children tries being more independence i.e. at this stage they start opposing their parents. For example: child himself strives for food where as their mums wanted them to feed in order to not get their dress dirty, then wearing shoes by their own and etc. In real they wanted to be independent but their way is called opposing or conflicting. So here goes some methods or ways which can help you in guiding your cute and naughty children or young sisters and brothers. 

• Let kids do their own work like, let them eat food by their own, let them wear their shoes, change their dress, button their shirts, etc.
• The best way is to separate their room. Most mum dislikes to detached their kid from them but this helps a lot in eliminating their fear, anxiety and affiliation. If the child don't agree with being separated then in the beginning switch on the lights while they are asleep then slowly and gradually dim the lights to eradicate their fear.
•  Allow your child to contact and play with other children. Because some time this commitment becomes two ways, one is that the child's trust is disrupted and second they are not able to dominate their problems. In fact this commitment is within the child, i.e that some children are not able to help himself they want someone [from their family] to help him whereas after their childhood, parent should let the kid solve their issues or they should share their problems with them and then ask them how it can be resolved and appreciate them.

In my next blog I will share the mistakes which most parents do and their outcomes. Send your feedback and questions in the comment bar or share it on my fb page: https://www.facebook.com/mylifeurinspiration/ or send on my email id: moattarbhojani@gmail.com.

CHILD'S DEPENDENCE ON THEIR MOTHERS

Child Dependence:

Some children are so attached with their mothers that they do not leave their mothers for a second. These children follows their mothers like shadow, For a flash they do not leave their moms.These children are called dependent.

The bond between mother and child: Research shows that without a secure motherly attachment, children's bodies activate a stress reaction to unexpected events. With the cutting of the duct , physical attachment to our mothers ends and emotional and psychological attachment begins.

The child gets depressed within the early months, especially within the first six months, if the kid isn't paid attention by their mother. Due to which child feels insecure and feels that their parents aren't giving attention to them. And so it's normal that till 2 to three years they're going to follow their mothers like shadow.

In order to eliminate the fear of separation from their moms they ought to learn the sense of stability in order that by the time their fear and attachment could overcome.These are some ways:

To build the personality of the kid , it's necessary to require kids in social atmosphere from the start , like take them to the park or for a walk and let them play, though they should be monitored.
The child should be allowed to play with his friends and go with the children of his neighbors or relatives.

Being hooked in to the parent is extremely normal.This attachment would become badly effective when the kid is more closely related to his parents that if the person isn't with the child, he won't get relax or are going to be impatient.