MISTAKES WHICH MOST PARENTS DO

As nobody is perfect. So being perfect for your children is impossible, but being a good role model for them is very important. Children follows what they sees rather what they are taught. So its important to be what you want your children to be.
 Where parents are the source of  a child's learning, parents do make some mistakes which are discussed below.

• Under or overdoing with your kids:  One of the biggest mistakes which most parents do is either they overdo with their kids or they under do, that means that sometimes parents either leave children on their own or they become over protected which stop children from taking risk or children becomes over confident.
• Not knowing your child: This is also one of the mistake which is been done accidentally or you can say by not giving attention. When we don't spend time with our children we don't know about their likes and dislikes, their interest and their boredom.
• Believing our children are perfect: This is the mistake which can make child rebellion to your own self. When they are taught that they are perfect that means nobody can correct them and they can never do any mistakes, and if once it happens they rebel. they fight for themselves as they are perfect and can not do mistakes, so NEVER EVER believe that your child is perfect. 
• Forgetting our actions speaks louder than words: THIS IS VERY TRUE. Parents should always remember that what they are doing, is what they teaching. It starts from the time you have conceived. Every action counts. 
• Not allowing our kids to fail: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE, Always remember. There are few parents in this world who thinks that winning is every thing and they never allowed there child to fail, and that is very wrong. Failure is only an opportunity to begin again more intelligently. 
• Paying attention to their bad behavior: The worst mistake of all. This happens when there are working parents or busy parents. They don't appreciate their child on their goods instead they scold them or worst of it they punish them on their bad. When there is no reward in good works then why punishments in bad. Just focusing on their bad behavior because some one told you or because it stresses you, This Is Bad Parenting.
• Repeating instruction: There are few children who don't like giving instructions again and again. Even child psychology says that do not repeat your instructions to your child, wait for their response. if they forgets then ask them if they remember what they were told or just told them that they are waiting.

GUIDANCE FOR PARENT

As in my last blog I discussed on Child's dependence on their parents especially their moms. Here, today i will discuss on how u can guide them to be independent.

ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO BE INDEPENDENT.

A child who comes in the world is completely dependent on his parents but as he grows he wants to discover the world. The child normally tries to be independent from two years. From 3 years to 5 years, children tries being more independence i.e. at this stage they start opposing their parents. For example: child himself strives for food where as their mums wanted them to feed in order to not get their dress dirty, then wearing shoes by their own and etc. In real they wanted to be independent but their way is called opposing or conflicting. So here goes some methods or ways which can help you in guiding your cute and naughty children or young sisters and brothers. 

• Let kids do their own work like, let them eat food by their own, let them wear their shoes, change their dress, button their shirts, etc.
• The best way is to separate their room. Most mum dislikes to detached their kid from them but this helps a lot in eliminating their fear, anxiety and affiliation. If the child don't agree with being separated then in the beginning switch on the lights while they are asleep then slowly and gradually dim the lights to eradicate their fear.
•  Allow your child to contact and play with other children. Because some time this commitment becomes two ways, one is that the child's trust is disrupted and second they are not able to dominate their problems. In fact this commitment is within the child, i.e that some children are not able to help himself they want someone [from their family] to help him whereas after their childhood, parent should let the kid solve their issues or they should share their problems with them and then ask them how it can be resolved and appreciate them.

In my next blog I will share the mistakes which most parents do and their outcomes. Send your feedback and questions in the comment bar or share it on my fb page: https://www.facebook.com/mylifeurinspiration/ or send on my email id: moattarbhojani@gmail.com.

CHILD'S DEPENDENCE ON THEIR MOTHERS

Child Dependence:

Some children are so attached with their mothers that they do not leave their mothers for a second. These children follows their mothers like shadow, For a flash they do not leave their moms.These children are called dependent.

The bond between mother and child: Research shows that without a secure motherly attachment, children's bodies activate a stress reaction to unexpected events. With the cutting of the duct , physical attachment to our mothers ends and emotional and psychological attachment begins.

The child gets depressed within the early months, especially within the first six months, if the kid isn't paid attention by their mother. Due to which child feels insecure and feels that their parents aren't giving attention to them. And so it's normal that till 2 to three years they're going to follow their mothers like shadow.

In order to eliminate the fear of separation from their moms they ought to learn the sense of stability in order that by the time their fear and attachment could overcome.These are some ways:

To build the personality of the kid , it's necessary to require kids in social atmosphere from the start , like take them to the park or for a walk and let them play, though they should be monitored.
The child should be allowed to play with his friends and go with the children of his neighbors or relatives.

Being hooked in to the parent is extremely normal.This attachment would become badly effective when the kid is more closely related to his parents that if the person isn't with the child, he won't get relax or are going to be impatient.